Something I hate about being fat is not knowing how the fashion industry works for thin people.
Is being skinny some secret club that I’m not a part of where they share all of their fashion advice to those they deem deserving? Are they hanging around, laughing at us fatties that can’t replicate certain fashion styles? Am I being super paranoid?
I really like the style of baggy fitting shirts and sweaters, also known as “boyfriend fit” I find it really hard to find large clothes in this style. I found myself wondering “How do skinny girls do it?” When I try on a top in my size that says “boyfriend fit” somewhere on the tag or label it doesn’t look like it, in fact it looks really tight and unflattering.
So skinny people can you fill me in? How does “boyfriend fit” work for you? Do you roll up to the clothes on your regular size hanger and it fits perfectly baggy? Do you go up a size or two when you see a boyfriend fit label to make it look baggy?
I wouldn’t be able to throw on a partners shirt and it cover my whole business, my boobs wouldn’t allow for that.
I have always assumed that under size 14 (UK sizing) “boyfriend fit” was a size bigger than advertised and then they stop adding more material for some unknown reason, either to save money or to make fat people feel worse about themselves. It wouldn’t be the first time the clothing industry has tried that. (See every plus sized section in every highstreet shop). I feel like this will always be an unsolvable mystery. I guess I could try going up a size or two when I see the infamous “boyfriend fit” label but the problem with highstreet shops is, sometimes they only go up to a size 22 and when I am currently fluctuating in each store between an 18-22 (occasionally a 16 in Primark) there isn’t always that option.
There’s also the other end of the “boyfriend fit” spectrum, the end where girls wear their boyfriends actual clothes. In Hollywood movies it was always a standard of sexiness and cuteness, that the “morning after” she puts on his shirt and he realises he loves her, or she now belongs to him…or some creepy nonsense like that.
But what about those of us who are much bigger than the men we find attractive? Does that mean we’ll never put on their shirts and the will never have that moment of realisation that they love us? Thankfully I can say from experience that isn’t the case! But I still feel like sometimes on a Sunday Morning I want to sleep in late, eat something greasy for breakfast, and dress androgynously. It seems unfair that media and society have portrayed women in their men’s clothes as cute while being desirable. I used to feel like wearing your man’s clothes is sexy but buying men’s clothes – even just for comfort – is sad, pathetic and desperate. I’m sure I’m not the only plus sized women that has ever felt that way.
Something I have come to realise is the women who wear their boyfriend’s shirts in movies are naturally quite androgynous. I wouldn’t be able to throw on a partners shirt, even if he were large enough, and it cover my whole business, my boobs wouldn’t allow for that. So I went out and bought myself a men’s sweater to wear when I want to dress comfortably and it was liberating.
I recommend women of all shapes and sizes do it, this isn’t something that only fat women who want to make a statement should do but it’s something that is freeing to all women. That way if you are single and you want to wear a man’s shirt, you can! If your partner has terrible taste in clothes and you wouldn’t want to wear anything of his but you still want to wear a man’s shirt, you can! If your partner is a lady and you both want to wear a man’s shirt, guess what guys…you can! Men’s clothes should be for everyone, not just men and the women in Hollywood movies that we’re supposed to be aspiring to. It’s taken a long time for me to aspire to be like me, no one else, and owning an item of men’s clothing for myself is something I’ve always wanted to do. So I went out and did it.
That brings me to Today’s Fat Outfit:
Today I’m wearing the one and only “boyfriend fit” item in my wardrobe, my Maroon Sweater from Officers Club. It’s a great Lazy Sunday hangout sweater, but I actually like it enough to wear it out while socialising. To complete the comfortable and androgynous look I keep going on about I’m wearing the only style of trousers that I own, a pair of Party Pants from H&M.
My hair game is on point today btw, all I did was brush it.
#todaysfatoutfit 